How To Get HOT Girls In 15 Mins (Stop Settling For Refrigerators)

You're Not Talking to Enough Hot Girls

Whenever I'm working with a client one-on-one, the top thing they say is "Chad, I get cute girls but just not hot girls." It's such a common occurrence that I wanted to break this down for you because most guys' perception of more attractive women is very skewed.

There's a lot of information out there talking about how to get hot girls, and most of it is saying "oh, you're going to have to take her to dinner, you know these girls have so many options so you got to stand out by taking her to nice places and nice vacations and then she'll like you." Most of it is pedestalizing bullshit.

Step one: you are not getting hot girls because you are not talking to enough of them. Let's be honest - how many approaches do you make a year? Most of you, it's probably none. So you're out, strike out, next one.

If you approach girls, okay, how many of them scare you? Where you look at her and go "oh my God, she's beautiful"? You're out. Next one. Let's see if you can make it this far - how many of you actually approach women you are scared of on a regular basis, at least once a week? No? There it is.

You can honestly turn this video off right now if you wanted to, but of course I got more cooking to do. But that's it right there. You aren't either approaching them at all, two - if you approach them it's once in a blue moon, or three - you can't even approach girls you're scared of.

The Mathematics of Approaching Attractive Women

Most guys see an attractive woman and start making preconceived notions. They take their insecurities and put it onto her and don't even make the approach in the first place.

So guys, if you talk to let's say 10 girls in a month - let's say you were just on fire, you made 10 approaches in one month - but eight of those girls were built like refrigerators and two of those girls were actually attractive, girls you wouldn't mind being seen in public with, what's gonna happen?

When you approach those two hot girls, you're going to go into it with a very nervous, shy energy and with this "she wouldn't want me anyway, but here I go" energy. And when they reject you, you go "see, I was right! Hot girls are just harder. If I looked like Chad or looked like Tyrone, if I had hunter eyes, it would go a lot easier."

And the problem is you get to be right about that, and now you walk around with these notions that "oh, only Chad and Tyrone get the hot girls." Brother, talk to more of them. That's it. Most guys don't even approach girls that make them nervous and make them scared. If you can't do that, you'll never have a hot girl.

And here's another layer to it - I'm not trying to make this video about dating apps, but most of you guys don't even have good photos. You don't even have photos that showcase you. So you're not approaching these hot girls, you're sure as hell not going to match with them because your profile is trash. So you're right - you get to be right about this notion that hot girls are just harder to get when in actuality, you're not putting in enough effort on dating apps and you're not even approaching them in real life.

Stop Listening to Women's Dating Advice

The second reason why you struggle to get hot girls is because you listen to women. Now guys, a lot of times when women are giving advice, they're always speaking in a way to be politically correct. It's mostly men who are blunt and are raw about dating advice because we actually know what it takes to get these girls.

For example, a girl will say "guys, like us women, we're already dating ourselves, so it's like if you can't come into our life and provide at a higher level, then leave us alone." So a guy will hear that and go "well, I guess she's right. She is dating herself. Her and her friends do go out to nice restaurants, so if I want a hot girl, I have to take them to restaurants."

And when he takes girls to restaurants and the date never goes the way he plans out, he's like "wait a minute, I listened to you guys. You guys said we date ourselves, so you should take us to nice places. I took her to nice places and I still got nothing - not a kiss, not sex, not a relationship, not nothing."

Guys, it's unfortunate, but you need to date women on your terms and not listen to what they say. What do you want? You want to take that girl to a regular bar and have a drink and get to know her? Maybe it's coffee - I'm against coffee, but whatever, I'm not trying to make this video about coffee dates. My point is stop listening to women about their advice about what they want. It's not beneficial to you because most of the time they're lying.

The Truth About Women's "Advice"

It's so funny - the guy that listens to their advice on YouTube or whatever the case may be, TikTok, whatever, there's a guy that listened to that video and took her out on a date. She put him in the boyfriend zone, made him wait. Then there's a guy that says "yo, meet me at drinks at 9:00" and she slept with him. Cold world, right?

So the point is I don't want you guys listening to women because a lot of times they're going to lead you astray to be seen as boyfriend material or friend zone material.

Another popular topic is "men, stop approaching us, we don't want to be approached by you guys, you guys are creeps." So nowadays whenever I talk about approaching, guess who's in my comments? Men. "Women don't want to be approached anymore, bro. Women don't want to... I don't want to get an assault charge or a sexual harassment charge."

Men are now terrified to approach women and it mostly came from women. Women are making videos saying "we don't want to be approached by you and we don't want to be creeped out by you." So men are stepping back and saying "okay, I won't."

And it's so sad because these guys who have so much potential are now damn near opting out of dating because they can't approach a girl to save their life. And on top of that, they're scared to get an assault charge, which is crazy. And on top of that, they can't even online date because their profile's so bad.

So it's like a lot of men are incels or involuntarily celibate not because they're choosing to be, but it's because of a skill issue. They lack approaching skills, they also lack online dating skills, so they're not getting seen in the dating market. So you need to stop listening to women on how to get women.

Attraction Isn't Linear - Your SMV Isn't Universal

The third and last reason why you cannot get hot girls - this is where I'm going to really cook. First things first: attraction isn't linear. Let me break that down.

A lot of guys say "hey, if you're a five, you're average looking, and she's an eight, that eight will be harder to get because you're a five and she's an eight. That eight wants an eight, a nine, or preferably a ten, and you're a five."

But guys, stop thinking that attraction is linear. What about how that girl sees you? That eight may see you as an eight. Exactly. Let me cook. Then there's going to be a five - a girl who's a five - that sees you as a four.

So guys will approach ugly girls at bars or cute girls at bars hoping "well, she'll be easier." No bro, just because you see her as a five, she may see you as a three or a two. Mind you, that eight out of ten, that nine out of ten at that bar, she may see you as an eight or a nine.

Stop thinking that your SMV score is this thing that's universal. There's some girls who look at me and go "ooh, that's just my type." And there's some girls who look at me and go "oh, he's too clean. Why is his hairline so straight? Why are his eyebrows so full? Why does his hair look so good? I want a guy that's a bit more chubby. I want a guy with some sideburns coming over his ears, his mustache comes over his lips. I want a dirtier looking guy. I want tattoos."

You're not going to be everyone's type. So my point is stop thinking that your SMV score is universal when in actuality it's fluid depending on who you're in front of. I may be a ten out of ten to this girl who I deem as a ten, and I may be a four out of ten in front of this girl I think is a five. So stop thinking that "oh, I'm a five, therefore I have to find a five or a four." No, that's not how it works.

Hot Girls Aren't Harder to Get

The next thing I want to touch on is a lot of guys in the dating space say "oh, she's an eight, nine, or a ten, she has all these options and it's just harder to get her, therefore you have to do more to stand out."

Guys, let me tell you something. I don't want you showing up as anybody else but yourself. If you're a happy hour drinks by your crib guy, I want you to ask that nine or ten to that same date. If she comes, great. If she doesn't, great. Because I don't want you adjusting your game depending on who you're in front of.

This whole notion that more attractive girls require more - says who? I guarantee you this girl you have on a pedestal, she had a boyfriend where he stayed home, paid no bills, and she was out slaving every day working for him. Don't believe me? Start asking these girls about their past exes and you'd be flabbergasted that these guys that they were dating didn't see this girl as a dime. They saw her as maybe cute or above average.

That's why this whole attraction thing is so interesting because you see this girl as a ten, but her ex-boyfriend saw her as a seven, which is why he was able to not really care, be nonchalant. She was paying the bills.

So don't think that more attractive girls are harder to get. No, you should do the same exact thing, run the same exact play for every single girl. Because when you get caught up in this notion that this attractive girl is harder to get, you become right about it.

You Deserve What You Think You Can Get

Let me tell you something. You guys see a black man, right? I'm a black guy. I don't believe in any type of systemic racism, the white man's holding me down - no, no. Now mind you, could all those things be true? Yes. But I don't believe in anything that takes my power away.

So I don't believe hot girls are harder to get. Because here's what happens: you see a girl at a bar that's really hot and you go "you know what, she'd be harder to get. I probably have to buy her bags and pay her rent. I'm not going to go talk to her. I'm going to go talk to this girl over here that's average looking."

Meanwhile, that girl who's a dime thought you were very attractive. Meanwhile, that girl you thought was a five, she thinks you're a four or three. So you actually have better luck going up to that girl who's a dime because she actually finds you more attractive.

I don't believe that hot girls are harder to get. I think what's hard to get is a girl who doesn't find you attractive. Because a lot of guys run game where they're just persistent - date one, date two, date three, they keep grinding until they get sex. For me, I don't run that game. I only mess with girls who find me attractive.

Because when girls find you attractive, they're much more compliant. Their schedules are easier to get. They're much better to be with on dates. Escalation is much easier. But when a girl doesn't like you, her availability is free one week, it's not free the next. Escalation's a bitch. She wants you to do all the investing, come to her side of town.

Girls that are hard to get are girls that don't find you attractive. That's it. That's the sauce right there. You can get hot girls. It's just your brain a lot of the time puts preconceived notions on these attractive girls, which is why most you guys don't even talk to girls who you find attractive.

Most of you guys think that you don't deserve it. And if you feel like you don't deserve it, you'll never have it. Guys, I'm living in a high-rise apartment now because I felt like I deserved it, so I went and got it. And my next car is going to be even nastier than the one I have now because I feel like I deserve everything.

Therefore, my mindset allows me to believe I can have any girl. So when I'm out at a club or a bar and I see a drop dead gorgeous girl, I'm like "I deserve her. I do." And I walk up to her and I give her that energy that I deserve to be in front of you. And if you walk up to a girl with this mindset that "oh, I can't have her, oh, she's too hard," your energy will show that in your approach. You won't be confident, you'll be nervous, and she'll be able to sense that.