You Have What It Takes To Get Your Dream Girl (Stop Waiting For 'Someday')

You already have what it takes to attract your dream girl right now. The body fat, income, and lifestyle you think you need are not the gate. Women date regular guys with far less than you have. The real lever is internal: believe you deserve her before the perfect physique or bank account, and act now instead of waiting for someday.

If you're watching this right now, you're probably a guy who's been told by other dating content creators that you have to be 'more.' "Bro, if you want the high-value woman, you have to be a high-value man. You got to be in great shape, have six figures of income, be this, be that."

And what this does is it prolongs your dating success because you think you have to become before you get what you're looking for. I want to break down all of the mindsets that could be holding you back because a lot of you guys watching this are enough. You are. But you think you have to be more to attract your dream partner.

The Female Dating Carfax Revelation

I made a video about this, and I want to bring it up here right now. I said I wish there was a way to look at a woman, do this scan, and it pulls up all her history of all the guys she's dated - what they look like, what she did for them. Like legit a whole Carfax, but for women.

If you read that Carfax, you'd throw up. You'd be like, "Wait a minute, the barista got with her? Wait a minute, the bartender at her restaurant got with her?" You'll start to realize, "Wait a minute, these guys aren't high value. It's not like she's only sleeping with Fortune 500 CEOs."

This is the brutal reality that most guys don't understand. The women you think only date successful, ripped guys with perfect lives? They've been with regular dudes. Dudes who had less than you have right now.

The Body Fat Trap - Why 12% Won't Save You

Now am I saying that if you're fat you should just stay fat? No. What I'm saying is you should try to get in the best shape for yourself so you can stay around long enough to have grandkids and see them graduate high school.

But what I don't want you to do is go, "Hey bro, I'm like 16% body fat. I'm going to wait to date girls till I'm 12% or 11%." And the problem with this mindset of thinking that you have to be in tip-top shape to get girls is you start to go out to bars and clubs, or just Target and Whole Foods, and you see very pretty women and you look at their boyfriend or husband and you're like, "Wait a minute, he bagged that?"

And it starts to make you question reality because in your head, this dating content creator said I had to be 10% body fat with visible abs to get girls. But then I see guys out and about getting these girls, but they're not that.

"What's even worse is that you get to your ideal body fat percentage, you get to that action figure movie star body type, and then you go out to a bar and girls don't talk to you. They walk right by you. You try talking to a girl, she rejects you."

You're like, "Wait a minute, I thought once I had this ideal physique, women would like me more." And all it does is it starts to make you resent the game. It makes you possibly resent women, which I don't want to ever happen.

I don't want you to think that once you achieve X, you get Y. Guys, I'm sorry, with women there's no guarantees. Zero. I can almost guarantee if you work very hard in school and get good grades, you will get a good job. But with women? You can make a million dollars a year, you can have a six-pack with very low body fat percentage, you can be super charismatic, and still not get girls. Why? Because you're missing the internal work.

The Money Mindset That's Killing Your Game

Here's the thing. Am I saying if you're middle class, making 70K, 60K, stay there? No. Do that for yourself. That's the biggest overarching thing I want to talk about - if you do these things, don't do these things because you think you'll get women at the end of it. Do these things because that's what you truly want to do.

I want to make money not for some chick. Hell no. I want to make money to prove to myself that I'm capable of doing it. I want to be able to set my family up for long-term success, set my kids up. Me grinding, making these videos, doing content and coaching people full-time - it's not to make money to impress them. I could care less because I was getting girls when I was broke.

Since I was getting girls when I was broke, I know this money doesn't matter. Here's a popular saying: "Hey man, when you get your bag up, when you start making all that money, they're going to come." No, they're not.

The Lead Magnet Trap

The only way women will come into your life when you have money is if you're using it as a lead magnet. For all my business guys out there, if I'm on Instagram and I'm showing me shopping for Rolexes, I'm showing me constantly in nice places, vacations, doing bottle service - yes, that will attract women. But they're there for the experience that you provide.

If you said, "Hey, come over to the house and watch a movie," they'd tell you, "No, nah. I want to do that you were doing on your Instagram story. Let's go to a nice restaurant. Let's go to the club. Let's buy bottles. Can I bring my girlfriends?" They're looking at you like a walking wallet.

It's similar to the girl who posts nothing but ass pics on social media but expects some guy to come in and sweep her off her feet. The guy's like, "Nah, I want to see you in those clothes that you have on Instagram." It's the same thing.

Stuff Is A Black Hole - The Never-Ending Chase

The next trap guys get themselves into is they feel like they have to have a bit more to show for. Let's just say they're living in a meager apartment with roommates. They feel like they have to have a penthouse or a house before a girl will take them serious, or they have to have a better lifestyle or a better car.

Guys, I know you're thinking I'm tripping, but I've talked to these guys on calls face to face, and they genuinely thought they had to have more in order to attract them. Again, back to my first point of this video - there are girls that had sex with guys where he was couch surfing. There are girls out there that had sex with guys who don't have a dollar to their name. If anything, they're paying the bills.

Here's the next thing I can talk about in regards to stuff: Stuff is a black hole. You get out of that meager apartment with your roommates and you got your own spot. But the spot you can afford on your own, it's meager. It's nothing too crazy. Now you think you need the floor-to-ceiling windows. Now you need the penthouse. Then you get that - well, it's not a house. You see what I'm saying? You continuously chase this bigger and bigger shiny object and you never think you're enough.

"Why are you basing your value in external things? I'd argue a girl would much rather have a guy that thinks he's that guy without it than a guy that only can be confident when he has nice things."

The Tesla Stock Mindset - Think Like 'That Guy' Now

So this brings me to my last point. You're probably wondering, "Chad, I'm still grinding. Maybe I'm young, or maybe you're older, you're 30-plus, and you feel like you still have more on the tank. There's still more goals to get to."

I felt like I was that guy when I didn't have much to show for it. Why? Because I knew where I was going. If you took myself now and you brought that 21-version of myself and sat him next to me, we'd have a very similar mindset. I'm 28, almost 29, guys.

And the reason why I brought that up is because when girls I used to mess with back when I was younger come over to my spot and they see my car and they see how I'm living, they're like, "Damn Chad, I always knew you were going to do this." Now could they be lying? Of course. But what if they're being serious?

The reason why I brought that up is because they knew based off my personality, where I was, the things I talked about, the goals I had, I'd get there eventually. And I did. So I always thought I was that guy because I carried myself that way. I thought I was that guy even when I didn't have everything. I thought I deserved the baddest girls, I thought I deserved the most attractive women, all because I knew where I was going.

Building Confidence From Within (Not From Things)

Don't have material things be what green lights your confidence. It can't be that way. When I finally get my nice house, when I finally get my Lambo, it's not going to be like, "Oh my god, I'm more confident." I'm like, "Jesus Christ, this should have came sooner," because I knew I deserved it.

If you gave me a Lambo right now, I'd be like, "Well yeah, I've been posting on social media for 5 years plus." Like, I feel like I deserve it already. It's not like when I get the house or I get the car, now I feel confident. No, I feel like I've deserved this stuff for years.

So when I had it, it wasn't like my confidence rose. It didn't, because I knew I already deserved it. That stuff doesn't green light my confidence. I already have it. And when I get it, it's like, "Yeah, well of course I have it. Why wouldn't I not have it?"

When I get my dream girl, I'm like, "Duh, I deserve my dream girl 5 years ago."

What's going on in here to where you think that you don't deserve it? And don't say cars and stuff like that because that's definitely not it. Your confidence should come from the inside. You think you're that guy based off all the hard work you have done, not because of the stuff that you own.

With what you have right now, you could attract your dream girl. But if you're somebody that thinks, "Oh, I'll have her when I have XYZ," bro, you'll just self-sabotage and think you need the next best thing. And it's a never-ending cycle, and you never feel truly confident with any girl you're with because you feel like, "Why is she with me? I don't even have XYZ yet."